We all want to make sex as good as it can be for our partners. But there’s more to good sex than choosing the best sex position - you have to know which sex positions and techniques to avoid! So here is a list of things for men to avoid during sex, along with some advice about the best sex positions - the ones that will make sex great for both of you!

First Sex Position Mistake:
Pushing your partner to do anything she isn’t comfortable with. So, if you’ve been thinking of trying the outrageous sex positions adopted by some porn stars, forget it! Start from a more realistic place. Being comfortable for a woman involves two things: first of all, she has to be physically comfortable. That might mean she isn’t going to feel too happy if you ask her to put her ankles behind her ears while you have sex. It might also mean that you have to avoid any position that gives you the deepest penetration, since your penis might bang her cervix and give her some serious discomfort. Second, she has to emotionally comfortable.So if you treat her like one of those porn stars, she isn’t going to be too happy either, and you’re not likely to be invited back to bed. This includes: wanting to ejaculate over her without her whole-hearted agreement, using dirty talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to slap her butt if she isn’t into it, and generally treating her like a sex object rather than a person.

Second Sex Position Mistake:
Being too much of a gentleman. There’s an old saying: “A gentleman takes his weight on his arms.” If you think this is the best way to behave during sex in the man on top position, did you ever try asking your partner what she wants? A lot of women like to feel the weight of their man on top of them during sex - they say things like: it makes them feel safe, secure, loved, or that they just like to feel the energy and power of their man in this position. Sure, if you’re a lot heavier than she is, you might squash her, so exercise some judgement, but generally, in the man on top position, let her feel your weight!

Third Sex Position Mistake:
Don’t just lie there all the time when she’s having fun. If she’s on top, riding you, remember that you can still move during sex in this position, even if it’s only a little bit. You can thrust your hips to match her movements, raise your knees to alter the angle at which your penis enters her vagina, and caress her breasts and clitoris if she’s facing you while you have sex. Remember - you don’t like it if she lies motionless during man on top sex, so in this position, return the favour and move about yourself!

Fourth Sex Position Mistake:
Being too aggressive during sex. Sure, some women like rough sex, either all the time or once in a while, but for a woman, sex tends to be something special and she’d like you to treat it that way too! That means not pumping away aggressively without her encouragement, not being selfish (i.e. having an orgasm yourself but not bothering to make sure she has one too), and not moving her around roughly during sex. If you want to show how much of a man you are by being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather than flinging her around the bed like a rag doll. Needless to say, this advice applies whatever sex position you are using! Fifth Sex Position Mistake: Sticking to the same old sex positions every time you make love. Sure, you don’t have to try all the adventurous and challenging positions you can find on the internet, but a bit of variation really adds spice to your sex life. Even if you’re extremely fond of the man on top position, for example, sex in the rear entry or side by side positions will let you see things very differently, may well get you much more aroused, and will certainly give you both some different sensations!

Article by Rod Phillips

Content by BetterSex.com - the #1 Authority on Sex. Tip # 1: Female Superior or Woman On Top ��

Tip # 2: Missionary ��

Tip # 3: Blossoming Flower ��

Tip # 4: Butterfly ��

Tip # 5: Pressed or Push-and-Pull ��

Tip # 6: Pair of Tongs ��

Tip # 7: Congress of Cow / Doggie-Style / Piercing Tiger ��

Tip # 8: On The Side ��

Tip # 9: The Spoon ��

Tip # 10: Hiding in the Crevice ��

Tip # 1: Female Superior or Woman On Top

Sometimes a woman wants to take charge during lovemaking. When a woman sits or lies on top of her partner, this is called the “Female Superior” position. And it can be superior for everyone involved! In Female Superior positions, the woman is able to better manipulate penetration to facilitate orgasm. This is a perfect position to stimulate the G-Spot, in fact. Lean your torso forward and arch your back, keeping yourself close to the base of his penis. Try rocking back and forth (not bouncing up and down). Squeeze your P.C. muscles once you’ve got a nice rhythm going. Another option is to lean back and place your hands on his thighs. This time, move up and down along his penis. At this angle, you’ll get great stimulation of the G-Spot. And your partner gets a great angle to watch your pleasure.

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Tip # 2: Missionary Position

The most common sex position is the man-on-top “Missionary” position. Many may think this is a boring position (and it can be!) but it provides many positives as well. First, there is a better chance for intimacy in this position. You and your partner are able to look each other in the eyes as you make love. Also, women often find this position optimal for clitoral stimulation, either by hand or by close connection with her partner’s pelvic bone as he penetrates. You may be surprised to know that women have a lot of control in this position. Elevating the hips makes for deeper penetration, and swiveling them in rhythm with her partner’s thrusting creates a more intimate and pleasurable experience.

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Tip # 3: Blossoming Flower Position

A variation on the Missionary position is the Blossoming Flower. In this position, the woman lies on her back and lifts her legs up. With her legs spread and open in this manner, she takes on the appearance of a flower in bloom. She can grasp under her knees for better leverage, as well. This is an excellent position for deep penetration, easy access to the clitoris, and face-to-face intimacy between partners. Long periods in this position may create kinks in the woman���s legs, but since the woman���s hands are free, she can always use them to massage her legs while penetration occurs.

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Tip # 4: Butterfly Position

One of the sex positions that was touted as ���revolutionary��� a few years ago is the Butterfly. It���s a bit tricky since proper alignment is necessary. The location needs to be a place where the woman���s pelvis is about a foot lower than the man���s. This could be a tall bed, desk, countertop, even a large exercise ball. The woman lies back while the man stands in front. (If the surface is very low, he may be able to kneel instead.) Now, the woman lifts her legs and rests her feet on her partner���s shoulders. She tilts her pelvis up so that he back becomes straight and forms a straight line, angling up toward the man, and both crotches meet. The man can place his hands just under his partner���s hips so he can hold her at the perfect angle while he thrusts. In this position, the pelvic tilt is ideal for G-Spot stimulation and deep penetration. An excellent tip is not to rush this one. Use a lot of lubrication and go slowly. With so many sensations going on, the orgasm that follows will be momentous!

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Tip # 5: Pressed or Push-and-Pull Position

In the Pressed Position, the man is very much in control. The woman lies on her back, with her legs together. She lifts her feet and presses them to the man���s chest. This position offers a good deal of friction. The man can grasp his partner���s hips to aid in thrusting. He needs to pay attention to her comfort level, however, as this position can be uncomfortable at certain angles or if continued for a long period of time. A variation of this position is the Half-pressed. Here, the woman leaves one leg free, letting it rest to the side or placing it on her partner���s shoulder. Better access to the clitoris is experienced, and it���s also a nice way to change up the position without stopping rhythm.

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Tip # 6: Pair of Tongs

This is a great woman-on-top sex position if you and your partner want to turn things around, literally! In Pair of Tongs, the man lies back and the woman faces opposite him. There���s plenty of variation in this position. The woman can lie back and lift her hips slightly, giving her partner room to thrust from underneath. Or, she can sit up and control penetration herself, not to mention clitoral stimulation. It���s a great opportunity to introduce sex toys like vibrators into the act as well. The woman can use them on herself as well as her partner. One word of warning for women: Keep in mind a man���s comfort and pay attention to how far forward you bend!

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Tip # 7: Congress of the Cow / Doggie-Style / Piercing Tiger

No matter what you call this rear-entry position, it’s a popular one for G-Spot stimulation. The man stands or kneels behind and vaginally penetrates the woman who is typically on all fours. Men like this position, as it offers a new and exciting view of their partner. He is also able to control penetration by grasping his partner���s hips. Women have perfect access not only to their clitoris, but to her partner���s testicles as well. Many men love to be stroked or even squeezed in this area as they thrust. Women with back problems should be careful not to arch their back too much. Men can assist by not pulling upward on their partners��� hips. As it is with many positions, it���s best to go slowly when entering from this angle. Also be sure to use plenty of lubrication.

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Tip # 8: On The Side

A lovely and intimate sex position is On the Side. In this position, you face each other while lying on your sides. Think of Missionary position turned to a 90-degree angle. The woman can lift her top leg over her partner���s hips, allowing him to enter her easily. Variations are endless here. Either or both of you can lift up on your elbows for leverage. You can even angle back down 45 degrees, for more friction. This position doesn���t allow for much clitoral stimulation, but that is easily fixed: The man stays lying on his side, while the woman lies perpendicular to him, draping her knees over his hips (or, if she spreads her legs, her knees actually rest on his waist/ribs and thigh, respectively). This is a fantastic position for clitoral stimulation and mutual control of penetration. And it���s a great for when neither of you really feels like ���being on top���!

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Tip # 9: The Spoon

We all know The Spoon to be a nice way to cuddle, but it makes an excellent sexual position as well. Both man and woman lie on their sides, the woman facing away from the man. The man enters from behind. If the woman keeps her legs closed tightly, there is better friction. She can even bend her torso forward and anchor herself so that she can offer a little resistance during the thrusting, which increases penetration. However, she can certainly lift her top leg for easier access to the clitoris. Her partner can even hold her leg up so that it won���t get tired and/or as an anchor while he thrusts. Not surprisingly, this is a popular morning sex position, as couples awaken and get snuggly.

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Tip # 10: Hiding in the Crevice

In this sex position, the woman lies on her belly, and the man lies on top. Some women may find it more comfortable to have a pillow underneath them. Legs are kept straight, and the man enters from behind. For men with longer penises whose partners have trouble accommodating them, this is a great position, as the woman can squeeze her buttock and P.C. muscles, giving the illusion of having a longer vaginal canal. The man can lift himself up slightly and kiss or blow on his partner���s back for added stimulation. Both partners��� hands are free for interlacing fingers or light touching, which makes this a very intimate position even though you are not face-to-face.

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Content by BetterSex.com - the #1 Authority on Sex. Tip # 1: Coital Alignment Technique ��

Tip # 2: Riding the Waves ��

Tip # 3: Sensual Massage ��

Tip # 4: Erotic Talk ��

Tip # 5: Pump the PC ��

Tip # 6: For Deeper Penetration ��

Tip # 7: The Art of Seduction ��

Tip # 8: Sex Toys ��

Tip # 9: Erogenous Zones ��

Tip # 10: Putting On The Sock ��

Tip # 1: Coital Alignment Technique

An easy technique that enhances intimate connection is the coital alignment technique. The man slides two to four inches forward from the typical missionary position. In stead of resting on his elbows, his arms should cup his partner���s shoulders so his body lies flat against hers. Both partners��� spines should be straight, and the base of his penis should naturally rub the woman���s clitoris. The woman���s legs should be straight out and touching his while she pushes her pelvis upward about two inches. At this point, the man can push down gently to give a little resistance. With this technique, there is no in-and-out movement; it’s an up-and-down rocking. To bring him in deeper, the woman can spread her inner thighs even wider and wrap her ankles gently around his calves. With your bodies moving so closely together and in unison, it���s a subtle vet very pleasurable way to make love intimately.

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Tip # 2: Riding the Waves

Here���s a technique you can do with a partner or alone. It���s an ancient sexual practice designed to delay pleasure and thereby heighten your eventual release. It���s very simple: Bring yourself ��� or you and your partner should bring each other ��� just to the brink of orgasm, but not over the threshold. Stop all movement and stimulation. Take a deep breath in and squeeze your genital muscles. Feel the energy rise through the center of your body. As you exhale, feel the energy drop back down. Do this three times. On the fourth, go for the reward: Full release! In fact, practicing this technique alone is recommended if you typically orgasm quickly or if you���d just like to prolong the lovemaking experience with your partner.

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Tip # 3: Sensual Massage

Sexual technique is not always about doing super tricks in bed. Much of lovemaking occurs before the act of intercourse even begins. In part, knowing how to be a good lover means knowing how to touch. Sensual massage is a wonderful way to connect to your partner, and to learn what feels good to him/her. It is also a very bonding act. Three basic types of massage can be practiced. There���s a general soothing massage, where you simply use oils or lotion and gently rub your lover���s body head to toe. In a body to body massage, you use your own body to assist in the massage, sliding up and down his/he back, using hair, nails or even playful bites. Some massage sessions may progress to masturbating your partner as part of the rub-down. Pay attention to your partner���s reactions as you massage or establish ahead of time what type of massage you will give/receive so that both of you achieve the maximum pleasure.

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Tip # 4: Erotic Talk

Don���t underestimate the power of words as a first-rate sexual technique. Erotic talk can be done during sex or when you and your partner are not together and want to keep the flames burning (having phone sex, for example). However, many people are at a loss about what to say during sex. Sometimes it helps not to think of it as talking ���dirty��� to your partner. Simply tell telling him/her what you would like to do with him/her is arousing enough. Alternatively, you can share a fantasy or an erotic dream. Keep in mind that your partner may have difficulty opening up verbally. Respect that. Always pay attention to your lover���s comfort level.

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Tip # 5: Pump the PC

The pubococcygeus muscle, or PC muscle, is located at the bottom of the pelvis and connects the anus and genitals to our legs and the bones we use for sitting. It controls the opening and closing of the urethra, seminal canal, vagina, and anus. How does this information translate into a sex technique? By strengthening this muscle, men can stay erect longer by stimulating blood flow to the penis. Women benefit by being able to hold the penis more tightly in the vagina. Here���s a technique to strengthen the muscles: Squeeze or contract the muscle as quickly as you can ten times in a row. Inhale and hold the last contraction for ten seconds then release as you exhale. You can do this anywhere. At work, watching TV, in the car… Women can practice this rhythmic contracting and squeezing while her partner penetrates her for added stimulation of the penis and heightened pleasure for herself.

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Tip # 6: For Deeper Penetration

Once you���re in the penetration stage of lovemaking, there is a technique men can use to thrust even deeper than they may have realized they could. Some positions, such as the Blossoming Flower — or any other position where the woman���s legs are spread and her hips are even slightly elevated — are best for this technique. On the in-thrust, just when you think you cannot go any deeper, pause for a second, then press just a little further right before you pull back, as though you���ve just swum a lap and are pushing off the wall of the pool. Start slowly at first, to build a rhythm, then you can begin to move faster if you wish. Your partner should begin to anticipate the final deep push and may even instinctively assist by relaxing her vaginal muscles slightly (to let you in further) or lifting her hips a little higher. For both partners, that extra little push goes a long way toward more intense pleasure.

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Tip # 7: The Art of Seduction

One of the best sexual techniques anyone can learn is how to seduce your lover. It���s not as complex or time-consuming as it may seem. Sometimes, just a simple compliment such as, ���You���re so beautiful/handsome��� will do wonders for your lover���s self esteem and make him/her more willing and excited to be close to you intimately. Alternately, you can write a love letter and leave it in a place you know s/he will find it when you are not around. It���s almost guaranteed your lover will be thinking of you all day and will want to get back to you for some lovemaking. If you���re out together, why not flirt the way you did when you first met? Flirting is a wonderful way to keep love fresh and alive. No matter how you choose to seduce, do something new every once in a while just to let your partner know you care.

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Tip # 8: Sex Toys

Sex toys make a great addition to your sex life, especially when the two of you need a change of pace. If you both decide you���re amenable to it, introduce something simple into your lovemaking like a vibrator. Men can use a vibrator to help arouse a woman and stimulate her natural lubrication. Perhaps one of the most important sexual techniques a man can learn is how to properly lubricate his partner before he enters her. Women can use a vibrator on her lover by gently moving it across his testicles and perineum. Be sure to move slowly, here, as this is a sensitive area, and some men are more sensitive than others. In both cases, let your lover tell you what feel right.

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Tip # 9: Erogenous Zones

Basically speaking, the erogenous zones are the areas of the body where we feel heightened sensations of physical pleasure. There are a lot of them for most women and men. Learn them. Each person is different, so don���t expect that your lover will like the same things as you do or a previous lover did. Massage is a wonderful way to find these zones, but general touching during lovemaking is the only sure way to discover what your partner does (and doesn���t) respond to. Areas to investigate are nipples, earlobes, neck, scrotum, bellies, feet, inner arm, the small of the back, and even armpits. Since we have nerve endings all over our bodies, almost any body part is capable of delivering pleasure signals to our brains. You���ll never know until you try.

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Tip # 10: Putting On The Sock

Everyone knows how important foreplay is to lovemaking. A great arousal technique, ���Putting on the Sock,��� comes from the Kama Sutra. ���Putting on the Sock��� may sound a little odd, but it is actually highly erotic. The woman lies on her back, while the man sits between her legs and puts his penis at the entrance of her vagina. Slowly, he caresses her vagina with his fingers. The anticipation of penetration is enough to get both of you very aroused, but this is just the beginning. Next, the man slowly replaces his fingers with his penis, using it (instead of his fingers) in the stroking motion. The continued stroking furthers arousal and should create more than enough natural lubrication. Once the woman is sufficiently turned-on, the man can end the technique by entering his partner.

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