17th March 2008

Are you secretly an exhibitionist?

Show off:

Although your inner bad girl may get off on the idea of being caught in the act, the real you may not feel right about sneaking off to a bar bathroom but you can feed any secret exhibitionist appetites by having sex in front of a window with the lights off. Stand up against the window facing out and have him take you from behind. You’ll get a rush from just the possibility of being watched.

posted in Fantasies and Private Passions | 0 Comments

5th March 2008

Get a Little Rough

Give a jolt during sex by gently nipping your partner’s shoulder’s or earlobe. When you’re in the heat of passion you may go more into your head than your body. A little pain snaps you both back to the moment.

posted in Better Sex Tips, Fantasies and Private Passions | 0 Comments

12th September 2007

What is fetishism?

Fetishism is when you focus on the obsession of an object, and the sexual arousal that seeing or interacting with that object may bring. Some of the more common objects that become a fetish are women’s bras, underpants, shoes, stockings or other items of clothing. Once a fetish for an object has developed, it often becomes a chronic problem.

An individual with a fetish will often masturbate to orgasm while looking at, rubbing, holding or smelling the object, or may request a sexual partner to hold or wear the fetish object during sexual interaction.

In many cases, the fetish object is required by the individual in order to be aroused or to reach orgasm, and is categorized as one of the first symptoms of fetishism. Not having the object may result in a complete loss of sexual drive, and even erectile dysfunction in men.

The use of women’s clothing in cross-dressing, or the use of sex toys that have been designed for genital stimulation such as dildo’s are not regarded as symptoms of fetishism, even though they may play a big part in sexual arousal.

posted in Fantasies and Private Passions | 0 Comments

7th August 2007

Obscure Fetishes

Balloon fetishism
A balloon fetishist becomes aroused when viewing, touching, tasting, or interacting with balloons. This can extend to the material, color, shape or even sound of a balloon.

Three general categories have been recognized when describing balloon fetishists that include, poppers, semi-poppers, and non-poppers.

Poppers generally do not focus on the balloon itself, but rather on the popping of a balloon, whether self-induced, or done by a sexual partner. The methods of popping may include over-inflating, body pressure (i.e. sitting on a balloon), pricking the balloon with a sharp object, or using teeth or fingernails to pop an inflated balloon.

Semi-poppers do not aim to pop a balloon, but are not unsatisfied if it happens by mistake, and may even find it arousing.

Non-poppers often fear the loud noise of a popping balloon, and are more interested in playing with a balloon, or the aesthetics thereof.

Balloon fetishism is not very well known, but is growing rapidly mainly due to pornographic content on the internet.

Urine fetishism
A urine fetishist involves urine in sexual activities and for sexual pleasure.

People with this fetish may find pleasure in urinating in public places, urinating on other people, being urinated upon, or even drinking their own, or someone else’s urine. Others may just prefer to watch these activities. These practices are sometimes referred to as a ‘golden shower’ or ‘watersports’.

Other varieties of urolagnia may include arousal from normal urinary activity, such as wetting the bed, wetting one’s pants, or in more extreme cases, a diaper fetish or arousal from infantilism.

posted in Fantasies and Private Passions | 0 Comments

4th August 2007

What are alternative sexual practices?

Here are some common definitions of fetishes and other alternative sexual practices.

Autoerotica: Self-induced arousal and/or stimulation.
Autoerotic asphyxiation: The purposeful decrease of oxygen during sexual activity, usually with the goal of increasing the intensity of the orgasm.
Bestiality: Sexual activity with an animal.
Bondage and discipline (B & D): Physical or symbolic containment or constriction of any part of the body as part of erotic play.
Cock ring: A ring usually made of rubber or leather that is worn at the base of the penis to prolong erection by restricting blood flow out of the penis.
Cross-dressing: Wearing the clothing of the opposite sex for sexual or non-sexual purposes.
Dominatrix: A woman who professionally takes on the role of dominating her clients through S&M, B&D and/or humiliation.
Exhibitionism: The act of sexual arousal through exposing one’s genitals or body.
Fisting: A sexual act that involves the insertion of the hand and sometimes the forearm into the vagina or anus.
Frotteurism: Sexual arousal that occurs when an individual purposely rubs against others. This may be done discreetly without being discovered, or in circumstances where the victim cannot respond, typically in a public place such as a crowded train. It is commonly known as groping.
Golden showers: Also known as watersports. The act of urinating on a partner’s body or watching the act as part of sexual stimulation.
Masochism: The desire to experience pain and/or humiliation for sexual gratification. The term comes from the writings of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch.
Necrophilia: Sexual arousal through contact with a corpse.
Paraphilia: Also known as erotic preference and previously as ‘deviant’ sexual behaviour. A preference for an erotic stimulus that is not considered to be normal practice.
Sadism: The infliction of the sensation of pain in order to achieve sexual excitement. The term was developed from the writings of Marquis de Sade.
S&M: Erotic activity/play based upon the principles of sadism and masochism.
Snuff films: Films that depict the real-life murder of one of the actors, often in combination with sexual scenarios.
Urophilia: Derivation of sexual excitement through contact with urine.
Vouyerism: Sexual gratification from watching sexual activities performed by others.

posted in Fantasies and Private Passions | 0 Comments