While there are some vibrators and dildos/dongs that are intended for anal use, this category covers all other kinds of anal toys - butt plugs and anal beads. When using any anal toy, be sure to apply plenty of lube to the toy and your anus for smooth, safe penetration.

Butt plugs tend to vary widely in length, but they’re generally wider than most other sex toys meant for anal use. Because of this feature, butt plugs are mainly the playground for experienced anal toy users instead of beginners. Butt plugs also contain a large flat base so butt plugs can be easily removed.

Anal beads are a string of several beads that can be inserted anally. These beads start off small and then grow larger, offering something for beginners and experienced sex toy users. Some of the anal beads even vibrate with movement so just walking to the water cooler can send your rear tingling.

Lubricants reduce friction, help to increase sensitivity, and provide a simple solution to female dryness. There’s so many to pick from out there and it’s a hard decision. Well the answer somewhat depends on what you are using it on.

You will want to use a water-based and glycerin free lubricant when having vaginal sex. The water-based is for easy clean up, stainless, odorless and good to use with condoms. Water based lubricants are also good with all sex toys and need a few drops of water or saliva to reactivate them since natural evaporation occurs. The glycerin free (a form of sugar that can cause yeast infections) is so that your female partner won’t get an infection. You see, glycerin can cause yeast infections so if it gets into your female partner’s vagina then she could get a yeast infection.

Water based gel lubes are Thicker for no-mess, no-drip version of liquid lubes. They can be reactivated, just like water based lubes, with a few drops of water or saliva. The thick viscosity of gel lubricants provide consistent coverage. Gel lubes are good for all sexual activities and particularly recommended for anal and toy use.

Silicone based lubricants stay wet and slippery the longest, never drying out even when immersed in water. This makes silicone lubes perfect for pool, tub and water play. Remember though, that silicone lubes can damage silicone toys and the synthetic “real feeling” toys. They are also particularly recommended for anal and non-silicone toy use. Silicone lubricant is not good for use with a Silicone toy because the 2 heat up and the toy melts. Silicon based lubricant is extremely slippery so clean up spills immediately in the tub or shower to avoid slipping. Also they may stain clothes and sheets.

Petroleum based lubricants are not good to use on latex toys or during intercourse because it will damage latex condoms rendering them ineffective and cause holes and tears in condoms and diaphragms.

Tip # 1: Overcoming Stigmas »

Tip # 2: Anal Anatomy »

Tip # 3: How To Start »

Tip # 4: Safe Anal Sex »

Tip # 5: Oral-Anal Sex »

Tip # 1: Overcoming Stigmas

Many couples find even discussing anal sex to be uncomfortable, never mind their thoughts of how it might feel to actually do. Open communication is imperative to any healthy relationship, however. Remember that stigmas attached to anal sex come from a simple lack of knowledge; we often fear what we don’t know. A woman biggest fear may fear that anal intercourse will be painful. Whereas a man might worry that being penetrated will somehow make him less than masculine. Both these worries are normal, but not necessarily the case. Anal sex does not have to be painful if done properly. And men’s enjoyment of it not only doesn’t emasculate him, it indicates he is a broadly sexual being, capable of enjoying all sorts of pleasure. In truth, the anus is simply an erogenous zone like any other. By learning more about anal sex you and your partner can educate yourselves and broaden your sexual horizons.

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Tip # 2: Anal Anatomy

The entry to the anus is the puckered circle of skin behind the vaginal opening on women, and behind the scrotum on men. The anal canal itself is only about one inch long, and leads to the rectum, which is approximately 8-9 inches long. The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening. You can use a finger or tongue to focus on these. For many, this is more than enough stimulation. However, when an object or penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasurable sensations are experienced. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure.

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Tip # 3: How To Start

If you have never investigated your own potential for anal pleasure, a good way to start is on your own, rather than with a partner. You may wish to take a warm bath or shower. Clean the area well. Once you have done this, relax and take a moment to touch the area with a finger or two. Apply different types of pressure to your anus to discover where you feel sensation most. You may wish to insert a finger into your anus a small amount at a time. (Be sure you have proper lubrication to ensure an easy movement; you should never force anything into the anus.) Pay attention to your body’s instinctive reaction. Your sphincter may ‘clamp down and squeeze your finger. This is normal. Simply stop moving and concentrate on relaxing your sphincter. Practicing on your own will allow you to be more comfortable if you choose to try anal sex with your partner.

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Tip # 4: Safe Anal Sex

There are a few very important rules to follow to keep all anal play safe and healthy. First: be sure both you and your partner have cleaned thoroughly. This includes not only our bodies themselves, but any toys that may be incorporated into the anal sex experience. Always use enough lubrication to ensure easy entry into the anus. A general rule is that larger the object being inserted, the more lube you’ll need. Never under any circumstances place your penis or any toy that has been in an anus directly into a mouth, vagina, or anus. You must wash thoroughly to avoid any bacteria from traveling to these areas. A generally safe bet is to use a condom during anal sex. This makes for easier clean-up and, of course, decreases the chance of spreading STDs.

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Tip # 5: Oral-Anal Sex

Popularly called ‘rimming, oral-anal sex involves orally stimulating the anus with the mouth and/or tongue. This can be highly pleasurable, particularly for those who are only comfortable with outer stimulation of this area. Because the tongue is softer than a finger, your partner may better enjoy the sensations of this kind of stimulation. Be sure, as always, that the area is clean before you begin. Oral-anal sex is most often practiced as part of oral sex. Couples can actually perform this kind of stimulation on each other in the ‘69 position as well. This is another way to share pleasure as well as a bonding experience between mates.

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