5 Tips For Better Sex Tonight

Tip # 1: Respect

Most people agree that one of the biggest pleasures in a relationship is through mutual respect. Developing intimacy requires developing a healthy respect for your mate. Remember what it was that drew you to our partner in the first place. What makes him/her feel like “home” to you? When you have these answers, treat them like mantras you repeat silently throughout the day. Over time, it will become an unconscious act. In those moments when you and your partner are not seeing eye-to-eye — and these happen for everyone — the memory of why you are with him/her will renew the respect you have.

Tip # 2: Adult Movies

Adult Movies are a helpful method for spicing up your sex life. Whether or not you have a partner, watching adult films can certainly assist you in improving your skills as a lover, but many of the how-to videos and DVDs are extremely educational from a scientific standpoint. Many feature commentary by medical doctors and licensed sex therapists, who offer invaluable knowledge about how the male and female body functions during sex. In addition, you are often able to view real couples putting lessons they learned into practice, which serves to demonstrate that we are all capable of having satisfying sex lives.

Tip # 3: Fellatio

Fellatio is the technical term for oral sex performed on a man. Its root is from the Latin verb meaning “to suck.” For many men, oral sex is a more intense experience than intercourse. This is due to the concentration of stimulation to the penis by mouth, tongue, and hands. Each man has different areas of concentrated sensitivity, so it’s important for a man to communicate what is pleasurable to him during oral sex. If he is not comfortable speaking out loud about his needs, he should gently guide his lover either with his hands or let her know when she’s doing the right thing by making some oral indication such as telling her he likes what she’s doing or sometimes even just a moan will send the message!

Tip # 4: Prolonging Pleasure

As a general rule, the longer the stimulation, the larger the release. This is true physically as well as mentally. In order to prolong pleasure during lovemaking and prevent male orgasm from occurring too soon, it’s important to start slowly. Even just talking to each other about the sex you’d like to have is a turn-on, and can initiate arousal. Once you begin to touch, you may wish to begin with a backrub or deep kissing before moving to intercourse. Once you do begin making love, you can also bring a man back from the brink of orgasm with a squeezing technique. Just prior to his orgasm, put your thumb on one side of the base of the penis and the tips of your index and middle fingers on the other side, then squeeze.

Tip # 5: Sensual Massage

Sexual technique is not always about doing super tricks in bed. Much of lovemaking occurs before the act of intercourse even begins. In part, knowing how to be a good lover means knowing how to touch. Sensual massage is a wonderful way to connect to your partner, and to learn what feels good to him/her. It is also a very bonding act. Three basic types of massage can be practiced. There’s a general soothing massage, where you simply use oils or lotion and gently rub your lover’s body head to toe. In a body to body massage, you use your own body to assist in the massage, sliding up and down his/he back, using hair, nails or even playful bites. Some massage sessions may progress to masturbating your partner as part of the rub-down. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions as you massage or establish ahead of time what type of massage you will give/receive so that both of you achieve the maximum pleasure.

From BetterSex

BetterSex.com announced a casting and resource call to baby boomers today with a contribution deadline of October 19th .Baby Boomers, people born between 1946 and 1964, are asked to contribute to a new sex education production. Our videos feature couples who share sex secrets on camera supported by professional sex therapists and educators, explained Martin Smith Director of E-Commerce for the Sinclair Institute and BetterSex.com.

The company is issuing an open casting call searching for roughly thirty boomer couples and individuals. Boomers with a great story to tell about their loves, desires and passions are just as important as couples who will share their sex secrets, explained Mr. Smith, because our productions are about relationships, connection, communication and life. It is certainly possible to be happy when your sex life is rewarding, but reverse the equation and happiness can be hard to find.

BetterSex.com casting call extends beyond couples interested in appearing in the new project. In addition to people, we are searching for great period pictures, home movies and original art work from the 1960s, 70s, 80s and 90s that will help enrich our production Mr. Smith said. The company is searching for original photographs, movies and art work that can help create a sense of time and place moving from the fifties to present day.

Our new project focuses on the endless creativity of baby boomers, said Mr. Smith. Many members of our team are boomers so our connection creates a desire to create something great. As always, we know we will receive support, suggestions and passion from our friends, customers and community, concluded Mr. Smith.

From BetterSexRevolution.com

Fetishism is when you focus on the obsession of an object, and the sexual arousal that seeing or interacting with that object may bring. Some of the more common objects that become a fetish are women’s bras, underpants, shoes, stockings or other items of clothing. Once a fetish for an object has developed, it often becomes a chronic problem.

An individual with a fetish will often masturbate to orgasm while looking at, rubbing, holding or smelling the object, or may request a sexual partner to hold or wear the fetish object during sexual interaction.

In many cases, the fetish object is required by the individual in order to be aroused or to reach orgasm, and is categorized as one of the first symptoms of fetishism. Not having the object may result in a complete loss of sexual drive, and even erectile dysfunction in men.

The use of women’s clothing in cross-dressing, or the use of sex toys that have been designed for genital stimulation such as dildo’s are not regarded as symptoms of fetishism, even though they may play a big part in sexual arousal.

Every woman wants to know techniques for giving oral sex to her male partner and here it is.

You should start with a little teasing. Tease the head of the penis with your tongue. The head is the most sensitive part of the penis. Pay particular attention to the tip of the penis. This is the equivalent to the female clitoris; it is a super-sensitive bundle of nerves.

Basic Technique:

Slide your hand up and down the penis, closing it slightly when you reach the top and opening it slightly as you move back down. While doing this keep his penis moving in and out of your mouth (lips covering teeth) which should be applying a firm but comfortable pressure.

Next lick his penis as if it were a lollypop, using long slow movements over the head and up the sides. Take his penis into your mouth and swirl your tongue around the head.

Deep-throating is where you take the whole penis into your mouth rather than keeping a hand or two on it. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable, resulting in gagging. If you aren’t comfortable deep-throating your partner it’s ok because the head of the penis is the most sensitive part anyway so that’s what’s most important.

Don’t be shy about adding something a bit tasty to your playtime. A little flavored lubricant, chocolate, honey, pop rocks, ice, a sip of something hot or anything else that you think tastes good will make this a feast that can satisfy both of you. Pop some toothpaste in your mouth before you put his penis in your mouth and it will give a very cool feeling (temperature-wise). Another trick is to try popping an Altoids into your mouth before you begin. These curiously strong mints can give a fabulous tingle.

Also try twisting your head to one direction as your hand twists gently the other way. Men can find it very erotic to watch you lick their cock so be sure to remember that part of sex is showmanship; look him in the eye and while you do dirty things to him. Judge his reaction and what he likes and match it with that you are comfortable doing.

Tease your partner by changing the speed, get him really aroused by moving faster and sucking harder and then slow down so that he does not reach orgasm. Take him to the very brink of orgasm (not easy) and then slow him down. Enjoy it (he will), you are in complete control.

Discuss the matter of ejaculation before you start. If you would not like him to ejaculate in your mouth, let him know that and ask him to give you a shoulder tap or maybe a verbal announcement before this happens. You can also have him wear a condom (flavored, if you like) so he can let his ejaculate go without discomfort or awkwardness.

Always remember to keep an open line of communication between you and your partner as to what both of you like and dislike. Try new things and see what works and what doesn’t.

“We love because it’s the only true adventure.” — Nikki Giovanni

“Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy, you must have somebody to divide it with.” — Mark Twain

“You don’t love a woman because she’s beautiful; she is beautiful because you love her.” — Anonymous

“Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.” — Zora Neale Hurston

“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.” — Erich Fromm

“Be generous in the bedroom. Share your sandwich.” — Homer Simpson