Lubricants reduce friction, help to increase sensitivity, and provide a simple solution to female dryness. There’s so many to pick from out there and it’s a hard decision. Well the answer somewhat depends on what you are using it on.

You will want to use a water-based and glycerin free lubricant when having vaginal sex. The water-based is for easy clean up, stainless, odorless and good to use with condoms. Water based lubricants are also good with all sex toys and need a few drops of water or saliva to reactivate them since natural evaporation occurs. The glycerin free (a form of sugar that can cause yeast infections) is so that your female partner won’t get an infection. You see, glycerin can cause yeast infections so if it gets into your female partner’s vagina then she could get a yeast infection.

Water based gel lubes are Thicker for no-mess, no-drip version of liquid lubes. They can be reactivated, just like water based lubes, with a few drops of water or saliva. The thick viscosity of gel lubricants provide consistent coverage. Gel lubes are good for all sexual activities and particularly recommended for anal and toy use.

Silicone based lubricants stay wet and slippery the longest, never drying out even when immersed in water. This makes silicone lubes perfect for pool, tub and water play. Remember though, that silicone lubes can damage silicone toys and the synthetic “real feeling” toys. They are also particularly recommended for anal and non-silicone toy use. Silicone lubricant is not good for use with a Silicone toy because the 2 heat up and the toy melts. Silicon based lubricant is extremely slippery so clean up spills immediately in the tub or shower to avoid slipping. Also they may stain clothes and sheets.

Petroleum based lubricants are not good to use on latex toys or during intercourse because it will damage latex condoms rendering them ineffective and cause holes and tears in condoms and diaphragms.

There are 100’s of Top 10’s out there, but they’ve all forgotten one of the most important areas of our lives - Sex. Here are Top 10 Sex Tips for the Summer. Add these to your list and you’re guaranteed to have more and better sex by the end of the summer!

1. Lose the Idealism
To truly enjoy sex, there is one thing that you absolutely must do, stop worrying about what other people think. Get rid of all of those self-imposed limiting beliefs that are keeping your sex life utterly boring.

2. Try New Things
Vow to try new sex positions, new sex toys, and new sex acts this summer. Variety is the spice of life and adventure broadens your horizons. Don’t be timid, keep an open mind and try something new in bed, whether it’s anal sex, a threesome, or living out your wildest fantasies. It could even be as simple as just admitting that it’s OK to like sex.

3. Embrace Erotica
Read more erotic books and watch more erotic movies (ideally with your partner, but if you’re flying solo - enjoy!). Commit to reading at least one erotic novel each month. Find an author and a theme that you like and start reading. I challenge you to get through one whole book without getting excited.

4. Have More Sex. Lose Weight. Feel Great.
Sex is great exercise and it is WAY more fun than going to the gym. Sex improves circulation and aerobic fitness by increasing heart rate and respiration, and exercises many major muscle groups. Did you know that you can burn between 100 to 300 calories per hour during sex?

5. Talk About Sex
Have a conversation with your partner or friends about sex. Again, lose the idealism. If you have a partner, how else are you going to know what turns them on? How will they know what turns you on? Not talking about sex is a certain recipe for disaster, or at least a really boring sex life.

6. Masturbate
This is something that just about everyone does and almost no one talks about. It’s one of the best ways to relax, ease your tension, and get in touch with your body. Take a time-out from your hectic schedule and spend some quality time with yourself. If you can’t enjoy and love your own body, how can you expect anyone else to please you?

7. Live Your Fantasies
Make a commitment to live your fantasies this year. What do you think about when no one else is around or when you’re masturbating? Write it down and share it with your partner. Who knows, they may just want to help you play out your favorite fantasy and you’ll both be in for some exciting surprises. Just talking about your fantasies with your partner can often lead to hot sex on the spot.

8. Organize Your Sex Toys
Quit tossing that vibrator under the bed with the dust bunnies. Keep your ropes, leather straps, dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys clean, organized, and carefully stored in a drawer or box. They’ll last longer and you’ll always know where to find them when you need them.
Sex toys may not be your thing, but don’t make that decision until you’ve at least tried several variations.

9. Dress to Impress
Do you really expect your partner to see you wearing your baggy shorts with the hole in the backside and those glasses at the end of your nose as you read the paper, and still find you sexy? Do you feel sexy when you dress that way - NO.

Save those “extra comfy” clothes for those times when you’re alone - wear something nice when you’re together, or at least get dressed…

10. Put Your Partner First
Guys, be more considerate - let your partner orgasm first. She puts up with a lot, so try putting her first once in a while and give her a screaming orgasm (or two or three) before you even think about it. Ladies, surprise your man with impromptu quickie sex - they love it!

Most women want to receive this more than their partners want to provide it. It’s hard to get this technique but here’s a few helpful hints.

You don’t want to be too rough because you will hurt her instead of pleasuring her. Then again you don’t want to be too gentle and nothing will happen or it takes too long. Once you find your technique don’t change it. Also, don’t stop in the middle of it and leave her hanging.

If you haven’t done this before, you’ll want to keep some light on so that you can see what you are doing. Light some candles or dim the lights instead of having no lights at all.

Next, let your partner decide which position she wishes to adopt as she’ll want to be relaxed and comfortable which equals a better chance of orgasm. She may want to lie back while you’re at the foot of the bed or even act out a slave fantasy by standing up.

You can now begin by slowly stroking and kissing her body. Spend lots of time; work your way around her body then, when she’s been teased enough, start gently stroking her genitals.

Leave her underwear on and stroke through the fabric – when she becomes moist whip them off. Now is a good time to ask her how she likes it: slow or fast; gentle or hard. Make sure your tongue is nice and soft – don’t point or tense it.

Start with indirect stimulation: wiggling your tongue around and over the clitoris. Then, move into longer, wet, gentle strokes with your tongue keeping a slow but steady rhythm. Make sure you’re not being too rough and make sure she knows how much you’re enjoying it.

Keep a good steady rhythm up for maybe ten to fifteen minutes and if you’ve covered all the right areas your partner should be close to orgasm. Remember not to just focus on the clitoris. You’ll know when this is because her body will tense and she’ll probably be shouting words of encouragement at the top of her voice! Before she orgasms, try popping your finger into her vagina just to heighten the pleasure – she’ll let you know if she doesn’t like it.

Finally, don’t stop until she tells you to or pushes you away.

One of the hottest services at the spa is couples massage. Two people are massaged in the same room, at the same time, by two different therapists.

Some spas, especially big resort and hotel spas, have elaborate amenities for couples with fireplaces, pedicure chairs, steam showers and lounging beds where you can relax together after your treatments.

What Are the Benefits of Couples Massage?
Couples massage is a great way to introduce men to massage. Some men are apprehensive about being nude during massage. To have their first massage in the presence of a wife or girlfriend makes it a “safe” experience.

Men usually discover that therapeutic touch is very relaxing and restorative. Once they experience a couples massage, they are more willing to book a massage on their own.

How Much Does Couples Massage Cost?
The price of couples massage depends on the spa where you get it. It will usually start at $175-190 at a day spa and could go much higher if you are getting the use of special indoor/outdoor facilities at resort and hotel spas. Tipping at the spa is extra.

Is There Any Downside To Couples Massage?
Some experienced spa-goers find it a little distracting to be in the same room at the same time with their significant other. They prefer to get their massage alone and then meet up afterwards.

The term G-spot was coined by Addiego in 1981. It is named after the German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg who is claimed to have first hypothesized the existence of such an area in 1950.

The Gräfenberg spot, or G-spot, sits directly behind the pubic bone within the front wall of the vagina. It is usually located about half way between the back of the pubic bone and the front of the cervix, along the course of the urethra and near the neck of the bladder, where it connects with the urethra. The size and exact location vary. Imagine a small clock inside the vagina with 12 o’clock pointed towards the navel. The majority of women will have the G-spot located between 11 and 1 o’clock a few inches inside the vagina. It is an erogenous zone that when stimulated leads to high levels of sexual arousal and powerful orgasms.

Finding the G-spot

The G-spot responds to pressure rather than to touch. Gently stroking is not likely to get any results. It’s more like massaging a marble under a mattress - one has to compress the flesh to find it.

Lie back with your knees pressed up to your chest. In this position, your vaginal depth will shorten and even small fingers should be able to reach the G-spot. With a partner, lie on your side with one leg drawn up to your chest as your partner enters you from the rear. He should be able to hit the spot.

Insert your fingers and bend them gently up, around and behind the pubic bone. Beyond the rather rough-surfaced tissue immediately behind her pubic bone, your fingertips will encounter a very soft, smooth area.

When you straighten your fingers and reach further inside, you’ll encounter a hard, rubbery structure that feels like an erect nipple pointing south. This is her cervix. The G-spot is the flesh immediately in front of the vagina.

When you reach in from the front with the woman on her back, the heel of your hand is over her clitoris while your fingers hook around her pubic bone. Pull upwards, as if you’re trying to lift her off the bed. In face-to-face intercourse, the penis may not stimulate the spot enough to do any good, although some positions, such as the one where the women draws her knees close to her chest, may increase the changes for a G-spot orgasm. You may try using a Liberator to adjust her position or a G-spot vibrator to hit the right spot.